What are We Bangladeshi - Submissive , Aggressive or Assertive ?

Behaviour                                  Characteristics

1. Aggressive             

Keen to win,even at other's expense

Overly concerned with own needs

Excessive eye contact used to intimidate

Loud ,obstrusive  or threatening voice

Expansive posture

Invade others' space

Finger wegging  and finger ponting at others

Blunt

Quick to blame others

Interrupts infrequently

Authoritarian

Persists to the point of stubbornness

Uses sarcasm,criticism,ridicule and patronising language to win point

Makes request sound like orders

Quickly escaletes a situation

2. Passive or submissive

    Keen to avoid confrontation even at own expense

    Overly concerned with 'permission' to act

    Minimal eye contact,usually down and away

    Quiet, hesitant voice

    Defensive, shrinking posture

    Nervous hand rubbing and fidgeting

    Beats about the bush,drops hints,avoids gettingt ot he point

    Quick to blame self

    Makes elaborate excuses and justification before acting

    Gives in easily

    Seeks sympathy or makes people feel guilty to get his or her way

3.Assertive     

Keen to stand up for own rights while accepting that others have right too

Concerned with principles and the needs of the situation to reach the agreement

Enough eye contact,especiallyy with key words, to demonastrate confidence

Tone of voice  and body language usually moderate, ans support message
Listens, seeks to understand

Treats people with respect

 Solution oriented, prepared to compromise

 Straight and to the point without being abrupt

 Prepared to stand up for self ad  to persit with a point 

To be assertive you have to be able to do two things : think assertively and use assertiveness techniques

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